So My Roommate and her Boyfriend Decided To Confront me Last Night.

"Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis" (Dwhite95) 04/07/2016 at 14:30 • Filed to: None

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Rant ahead, have a Datsun.

About apartment cleanliness. She had decided that none of the other roommates doing the dishes from her birthday party was the breaking point for her. But her conclusion as to why I “don’t put in my fair share” is ridiculous.

Apparently becuase she is a women, I go out of my way to keep the apartment as “dirty” as possible because she is a women, and I believe that it’s a womens job to clean up. At this point I was virtually speachless.

Also, its somehow my fault that I don’t step up and clean up after her brother because she is too scared to confront him about it. And everytime I mentioned the things I do clean around the house it was “those things don’t matter”.

Also, listening to her say that the guy thats double major and working 20 hours a week and the guy working 60 hours a week “only sit on their ass” and she has the hardest schedule of all of us took a lot to not laugh at.

The Ghost of Oppo > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 14:35

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How many people do you have living together?

Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis > The Ghost of Oppo 04/07/2016 at 14:36

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4. That being said, one just went to jail, so not sure if we count him at the moment.

Hoccy > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 14:36

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...which is why I am very happy to live all by myself!

MontegoMan562 is a Capri RS Owner > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 14:38

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I bet he’s severely lacking on his chores....

Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis > MontegoMan562 is a Capri RS Owner 04/07/2016 at 14:39

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He is the brother she doesn’t want to confront unsurprisingly.

He is also a major source of the cleanliness issue.

Steve in Manhattan > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 14:39

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My 12 year SigOther and I went through a version of this maybe 5 years back. Bottom line - guys are simple. Tell us what you want us to do, and we’ll do it. Now, if I’m between contract jobs, I have dinner on the table, do the laundry, and clean the toilet. Happy wife, happy life.

For Sweden > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 14:40

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Is the one in jail still paying rent?

The Ghost of Oppo > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 14:40

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Damn, yeah dealing with roommates is a pain. Especially if one has a bug up their ass

MontegoMan562 is a Capri RS Owner > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 14:41

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Well at least that major source of cleanliness is going to be missing for a while.....

Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis > For Sweden 04/07/2016 at 14:41

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Well thankfully that last month of rent should have been paid just over a week ago. So I sure hope so...

ttyymmnn > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 14:42

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Sounds like it's time to find new roomies and move out.

Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis > ttyymmnn 04/07/2016 at 14:43

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Yup, I move out in may and have three new roommates next year.

McMike > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 14:45

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How long is the brother going to be on vacation?

66671 - 200 [METRIC] my dash > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 14:45

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Idk, part of me would want to tell her to fuck off and rethink her argument because you don’t have time for ignorant people, while the other part says don’t make things toxic and counter her argument point by point politely.

K-Roll-PorscheTamer > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 14:45

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I know it’s a rant, but using “women” instead of “woman” was bothering me. But yeah, that's stupid.

Group B Enthusiast - Captain of the supercharged barge > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 14:45

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While I’m sure she has her own side to the story, she’s crazy if she thinks you should be responsible for confronting HER brother...

Sounds like you need new roommates. :/

^A ‘DFTPUNK’ M3 to cheer you up

CalzoneGolem > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 14:46

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Keep your head down and eventually this’ll be a memory. You probably don’t have time to look for a new place atm so you don’t want to escalate this situation.

Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis > K-Roll-PorscheTamer 04/07/2016 at 14:47

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The issue of ranting on my phone.

Stapleface > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 14:47

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Such a pretty Datsun.

As for the chores, living with people sucks. Since everyone can’t be on the same page, why don’t you develop some type of chore calendar? Like on tuedays one person vacuums, someone else does dishes, and someone else cleans the bathroom? Just divvy it up so everyone has equal chores. And kick the incarcerated one out when he gets out of lockup.

ttyymmnn > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 14:48

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The end of May? Stop cleaning.

Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis > McMike 04/07/2016 at 14:49

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Well he refused to put a plea on his DUI in, so he got put in jail and he can’t make bail. So I’m not sure overall.

Dukie - Jalopnik Emergency Management Asshole > For Sweden 04/07/2016 at 14:49

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In cigarettes and honey buns.

buford-t-justice > Dukie - Jalopnik Emergency Management Asshole 04/07/2016 at 14:56

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For some reason this made me think of Oz

McMike > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 14:56

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I would be curious how clean the place stays while he’s out.

...or how clean you can make it seem while he’s out.

McMike > ttyymmnn 04/07/2016 at 15:04

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The end of May? Stop cleaning.

And start tormenting.

If he feels like they’re unfairly accusing him of not pitching in, not only would I stop cleaning, but I would start making MORE of a mess.

JawzX2, Boost Addict. 1.6t, 2.7tt, 4.2t > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 15:05

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Living with Roomamates...

How you think it will be:

-

How it actually is:

Living Alone...

What You Think It will Be Like:

what it’s actually like:

iSureWilll > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 15:06

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I used to live with 3 other people in one house. None of them would EVER wash their own dishes (had to be hand washed) so I did it ONE TIME and then they started leaving their dirty plates (everything) in the sink so I just stopped doing it and bought my own paper plates and paper utensils ensuring I could never be to blame for the dirty sink. It worked out in my favor. My room - spotless. Their rooms - bomb went off.

The sink looked similar to this but with no dishwasher:

ceanderson920 > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 15:11

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This is why I refuse to live with anyone else. I have had decent room mates and bad room mates. But overall they suck.

luvMeSome142 & some Lincoln! > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 15:17

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I have roommates too! 3 kids and a wife. There is constant arguing about who cleans what and who made what mess!

Wrong Wheel Drive (41%) > iSureWilll 04/07/2016 at 15:30

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I enjoy the policy of, "if you do not do your dishes, they are going in your bed". That seems to work well generally since I can care less about the dishes actually being clean as long as they are out of my damn way and not my problem anymore. Dishwashers tend to be the best thing in the world though.

yamahog > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 15:31

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Look what adequate man published just in time for your roommates!

http://adequateman.deadspin.com/what-do-you-do…

Wrong Wheel Drive (41%) > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 15:34

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Ya know, stuff like this gives constant fuel to the “living with roommates sucks” fire. But it really is not the problem. The problem is living with SHITTY roommates. It really is much better when everyone behaves like adults and clean up after themselves. It honestly is much better than just living on your own, even outside of just the monetary advantages. Now I have of course had some shitty roommates, but the good ones remind me that some people just suck at life lol.

ttyymmnn > McMike 04/07/2016 at 15:36

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Because that’s how McMike rolls.

(honestly, I hate that saying)

iSureWilll > Wrong Wheel Drive (41%) 04/07/2016 at 15:46

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That sounds like a good plan. I could not live without a dishwasher!!!

E92M3 > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 15:57

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Haha. That’s the opposite of my experience with a female roomate. I once shared an apartment with a friend and his girlfriend. She was the one who was the least cleanly and I had to confront. When we eventually parted we had to cleanup for the move out inspection. I was horrified to discover she didn’t clean their tub/shower the entire time we lived there.

Wrong Wheel Drive (41%) > iSureWilll 04/07/2016 at 15:58

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The only problem with dishwashers is that some people do not understand how they work. You cannot take food-crusted, 3 day old pots/pans and just toss them in there. Especially if it is a cheap dishwasher, you really have to at least get the food off everything first. And it is MUCH easier if you do this before the food dries on there.

jariten1781 > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 15:59

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I moved into Section 8 housing to prevent having to live with roommates. Rather live in the worst part of town, surrounded by criminals than deal with non-family shared living.

iSureWilll > Wrong Wheel Drive (41%) 04/07/2016 at 16:00

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LOL When I put dishes in the dishwasher my girlfriend always asks, “Are these clean?” because I rinse them so well right after we eat. She loves to soak the dishes for a day or so like it works better than rinsing with hot water.

Wrong Wheel Drive (41%) > iSureWilll 04/07/2016 at 16:06

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Ive certainly been confused when opening the dishwasher before and had to closely inspect things to determine that it was dirty. I never use soap before the dishwasher but just some warm water on a fresh dish will get most of the crap off. Life is tough right now since I am living without a dishwasher for the next couple of months. Cooking is much more of a chore this way!

PotbellyJoe and 42 others > McMike 04/07/2016 at 16:16

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If i knew I was moving out within 50 days, I would have trouble wearing pants.

It would basically be mesh shorts only once I was in the apartment.

#SlumItWhileYouCan

Reigntastic > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 16:17

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Quit being such a shitlord, bro.

McMike > PotbellyJoe and 42 others 04/07/2016 at 16:31

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I would also start leaving these around the apartment

http://www.amazon.com/Easy-Touch-Nee…

Bathroom trash, kitchen trash, couch, etc..

Azrek > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 16:59

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Self entitlement. Sounds like they are used to being babied. Lock your door and leave town for a week. See what happens to the house.

I can’t deal with roommates as I start laughing at them or ensuring they know they aren’t special flowers.

Captain of the Enterprise > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 17:15

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Probably wouldn't help but if what your doing doesn't matter you could ask if you should just stop then.

The Compromiser > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 18:04

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Start putting Shit away wrong. Salt in the sugar bowl, peanut butter in the fridge, bread in the meat drawer. Smile big and say, “I’m helping!!!” Walk in with shampoo and ask why this ranch dressing tastes like soap. Put the dishes away in the wrong places. Look innocent when asked about it.

They will stop asking. Trust me.

Saracen > iSureWilll 04/07/2016 at 19:57

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I would kill them all.

So glad I haven’t had roommates for the last 8 years. Makes it a bit more difficult to afford the toys but my sanity is worth it.

Saracen > JawzX2, Boost Addict. 1.6t, 2.7tt, 4.2t 04/07/2016 at 20:00

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This is the truth. %100

...and if I had a roommate that said I wasn’t allowed to have sex in our shared apartment, I would do the nasty in every room. Even my roommates.

Eggplant > Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis 04/07/2016 at 21:27

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And everytime I mentioned the things I do clean around the house it was “those things don’t matter”

If they don’t matter, stop doing them.

Also, like everyone else has said: time to leave.